Marriage Tips
Unfortunatly we won't have time at the wedding reception to pass around the microphone to everyone who is married......but we really, really want to hear your insider tips, hints, and words of wisdom. So if you have been married 5 days or 50 years, take a moment and post your top "gear greasers".....and leave Caleb's farting out of it....
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Never...
This one comes form Uncle Skip and is some of the best advice I have received- Never let your relationship deteriorate into a marriage, continue to date eachother.
Thanks
Thank your spouse every day. Thank him/her for little things, as it will be unexpected and all the more appreciated.
you asked for advice
Best quote I've heard about marriage was: when asked how he could possibly have stayed married to the same woman for 40 years, the man answered: "she wasn't the same woman for 40 years." Here's my spin on that: Allow your partner to grow and change, and push yourself to grow and change. But if you find yourself pushing your partner to change then go directly to jail and do not pass go. Look after your own little-red-wagon changes, and nurture a fertile environment for mutual growth, and good things will happen.
Marriage Counseling
Get some good counseling before you get married. It'll save you thousands of dollars of counseling after you get married:)
Go here and watch and listen and learn. Betsy and I gained so much from these talks on the idea of Oneness in marriage.
http://www.gracechurchsc.org/resources/one-series/
Tip #3
Never say never.
Advice
With the cake story you just posted, the groom is supposed to look excited and interested, but whatever the bride selects, you are to agree and say, "I was just going to pick that myself!" Remember this quote for the rest of your life ......."when momma's happy, everyone is happy!!!" You can verify that with your married friends and your Mom and Dad. Oh, and just like your Uncle Charlie said, keep the laughter!! Lindsey as you well know, Caleb will keep you laughing. Caleb has kept me laughing for 30 years!! Best wishes to you both. You two make the cutest couple!!
Marriage Tip #2
Talk less....Listen more. Your mother tells me I'm an expert!
Tip #1 of Many
As a corrollary to "love is a verb", marriage is like a new plant; to survive it needs loving care and attention.
Handle your Business
No matter what all the new Orah or Dr. Phil say, women admire a man who handles his business. These are a dying breed of which I am the player / president.
Women respect a man who provides security for physical needs as well has emotional security. Maintain the status in the home as the big dog by earning it and keeping it with respect.
The Best Advice
Caleb and Linday,
The best advice that I received when we got married was from your parents Caleb. They told me that a marriage is not 50/50 but its 110 and 110. We tried to live but that everyday. Not everyday feels that way but for the most part we try.
XOXO,
Katie
LAUGH!!! Keep a sense of
LAUGH!!! Keep a sense of humor. It has worked for us for almost 26 years. Congrats to you both!
It all comes down to RESPECT
It all comes down to RESPECT
tip#2
pick a marriage/relationship that you admire; pay close attention to how they treat each other; consult with your partner to see if h/she also likes what they do; copy.
Ray is a.....
Ray is a woman......hahaha. Ok ray the blind dog is a guy.....but his owner is the world renown, craft and creative expert. If we ever have another great depression I am popping a tent in "Ray's" backyard....where I will probably feast on freshly grown spinach and sleep under a hand knitted wool blanket.
Can i dance with ray the
Can i dance with ray the blind dog? he seems smart!
tip #1
separate bathrooms
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